that depends on the frequencies you want to operate at. At 1.42 GHz (21 cm, hydrogen wavelength) the mesh can be ~ 5x5 cm. Higher frequencies need a smaller mesh.
Sure. But the point remains: the surface of a radio dish is going to be many orders of magnitude less fussy than an optical scope. And the lightweight, relatively fragile nature of the material, whether it's a woven net, or sheets of foil, or etched foil, actually works in your favor when dealing with a lunar environment. On earth, wind can tear a really lightweight mesh. On the moon, you can blast it 24/7 with micometeors. Each one will punch a hole not much bigger than the impactor, with little effect on the surrounding reflector material. Punch a billion microscopic holes it it, it just won't matter. The total area taken out in a century of normal bombardment would be a vanishingly small fraction of the total and would possibly not even be noticed. Shoot, you could probably have spiderbots crawling around it non-stop repairing little dings, with a one-year rotation period.