I don't know if what you said earlier is right or wrong, but it's clearly wrong.
You can literally hear Chinese submarine sailors with sonar. Not the boats. The crews themselves are undisciplined and loud.
The PLA's carriers and the naval aviation are the golden sons, so they receive the lion's share of the funding and high quality personnel, while the submarines are ignored. This makes a lot of sense, given the PLA's war plan is likely to try to take Taiwan before the U.S. can react in force, to avoid being dragged into a war of attrition.
I think that a solution to Chinese industrial superiority that involves nuclear war is probably not a very good solution.
Escalation to nuclear weapon use is sort of a given. It'll happen when both sides run out of conventional weapons. The most likely culmination is a tit-for-tat exchange on regional airbases, ports, and naval task units. I don't think anyone actually expects the respective mainlands to be hit but that will always be a risk with this sort of thing.
Diego Garcia, Guam, Okinawa, the various sandbar bases, and anything captured in Taiwan would probably all be fair game. There'd be no real risk of escalating to exchange of cities.
The Chinese can always retaliate, and have recently made significant investments in their nuclear weapons complex, precisely to deter vertical escalation.
The U.S. has demonstrated very effective anti-ballistic missile capability with the recent Middle Eastern kerfluffle. It will have something similar to GPALs in place in the coming years which should neutralize most ballistic missile threats and some intercontinental hypergliders. The optimal strategic attack system of the 2030's will be a stealth low altitude cruise missile like JASSM or Kh-101 of whatever range is required.
DF-17 will still be a serious threat to task forces in theater, but it's unlikely the PLA will pose a significant threat to the U.S. mainland, at least if it continues to rely on ballistic missiles. If it suddenly gains a squadron or two of H-20 stealth bombers in the next 5-7 years then that would be a far more dangerous deterrent for sure.
The only country with enough ICBMs to still seriously frighten America, even with its Starshield ballistic missile dome, will be Russia. Maybe.
The submarines on the other hand...
...well, there's no good answer to that, but OTOH they just need to hold a few relatively small bastions and littorals, and investments in fixed fortifications (mines, subsea sensors etc) probably help on that front.
They would actually need to hunt down and destroy American submarines, which they will not be able to hear, and they will be detected first. SUBPAC will kind of run roughshod over the PLAN in its own backyard and the only thing that might be able to help will be the naval aviation's maritime patrol aircraft. Sorta. Maritime aircraft are dependent on sonar performance and 774's newest hulls are incredibly quiet.
It will be much harder for carriers or any other surface units to enter the SCS, but then again, they may not need to.
Or until they get rid of crew at all, deploying fully robotic submarines. PLAN apparently worked hard in that direction. What the point of rigorously training crews to reduce noise, if you could just have no crew at all, and not only zero crew-related noise, but also a fully-capable sub several times smaller than manned one?
It would be smarter to just make an Alfa and staff it with a couple dozen high scoring and motivated warrant officers honestly. They still haven't done this, likely because they can't, though. The automation methods aren't there in the sense that the PLAN can't make them. Type 095 is basically an early 774 informed by some of Malachite's practices.
The continued use of Jins is also really wild considering how bad it is. They can make a Burke every 18 months but they can't afford another half dozen 096s and scrap the 094s? Imagine reading the minutes of that boardroom fight.